INTERVIEW: Paige sits down with Jayna Davis to discuss her journey as a queer woman, including misconceptions, coming to terms with your identity, people-pleasing, and homophobia.
Jayna Davis was 15 years old when she first came out as a lesbian to those around her. However, her coming out journey never stops. Due to her femme-presenting nature, she is constantly challenged on her identity and has to correct others about her romantic preference. She opens up about what it’s like having to prove herself and her sexuality to others, battling comments like “you don’t look lesbian”, “I have girl friends, too” and “I could change your mind”.
She also discusses the shame aspect of going against what is “expected” from a woman who looks like her. Sexism, undermining, and harassment occur regularly and unfortunately probably always will. While we have come far in taking steps towards equality for the queer community, there is so much more work that needs to be done. Jayna emphasizes the importance of asking questions, getting informed, and enforcing change. This can be as simple as permitting queer friends to correct you if/when you make a mistake, allowing them the space to open up, and validating their experiences.
Jayna reminds us to own who you are with confidence; that “your dreams, desires, and identities are not defined by the way others see you. As you become more in touch with who you are and what you want in life, you might lose connections with people who don't understand. And that's okay. Don't let somebody else's biases steer you away from who you really are”.
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